My Black History

Embed from Getty Images   Note to the reader: To tell my story in the way I want it heard, this piece contains explicit accounts of physical abuse. I wasn’t born hating black men; it wasn’t something I learned from my parents either – in fact my father always...

How to Eliminate Performance Anxiety Forever

– – – See the author’s TEDx Talk on Creating Extraordinary Intimacy in a Shut Down World – – – The idea of “performance” is part of the very fabric of our culture. It is a goal oriented, comparison based paradigm that affects...

There is No Such Thing as a Broken Heart

– – – See the author’s TEDx Talk on Creating Extraordinary Intimacy in a Shut Down World – – – A young female friend of mine who is helping me with one of my book projects came to me for some relationship advice. She told me...

How to Avoid a Life That Sucks

Here’s a way to make sure that your life never sucks again… – – – See the author’s TEDx Talk on Creating Extraordinary Intimacy in a Shut Down World – – – Let’s face it, we all have a lot to complain about. Maybe it’s our...

Men and the Fine Art of Surrender

Surrendering to “what is” can be one of the most courageous acts a human being can choose to do—here’s why… – – – See the author’s TEDx Talk on Creating Extraordinary Intimacy in a Shut Down World – – – In most cultures,...

Netflix and the Demise of True Romance

Sharing a Netflix movie doesn’t have to be the highlight of your romantic evenings together. Here’s a way to keep the fires of intimacy burning ever brighter as your relationship matures… – – – See the author’s TEDx Talk on Creating...